THE SEVEN LEVELS OF INTIMACY
QUESTION. What are the seven levels of intimacy? I am interested in both what happens at a personal level for the individuals involved, and what the larger implications are, whenever that comes into effect.
Michael: We will first of all comment on the nature of intimacy which is essence contact, one fragment with another, and is the most relevant method through which to progress through the cycle of human evolution. It is when two fragments experience the essence of one another that the larger awareness of connection to the Tao is emphasized and the illusion of separateness is dampened and it is in these very quiet yet dynamic moments that each essence is fully expressed as the chasm that so often exists between fragments disappears if only for an instant.
The levels are connection, commonality, relationship, revelation, intimacy, agape, and union.
We think it is most often the case that human fragments who are aware of the benefits of relationship will tend to focus primarily on what we might call the lower level or entry levels of the intimacy levels, that is to say in connection, commonality and relationship and do not easily make the transition past these introductory and often comfortable levels. We will provide examples to illustrate the levels.
Connection begins when two fragments recognize that a pull exists between them and often includes the activation of the chakric system most usually the second and fourth ( sexual and emotional). The moment that this occurs is often near the beginning or vector of the fragments but in fact can occur at any time. Co-workers for example can recognize feelings of comfort with another fragment and choose to leave it at that, that is to say as a connection but without making any efforts to further interactions with one another.
Commonality begins when fragments recognize there are threads that exist between them that might then allow for a sense of similarity which can and we state can then open the door for a relationship to be developed. This is not to say that at the first and second levels that relationship is not extant, but there is not yet an exchange of energy that begins with the third level. At the second, fragment may well notice that they have things in common including interests, tastes ranging from wardrobe to dining, all structural in content but lacking the activity of level three.
Relationship is the level where activity begins and the fragments openly share what they have perceived in the prior two levels including what they like and dislike in general, and may then choose to engage(ment) (a subsection word, could be substituted for “relationship” in fact) Of course, this level may tend toward the negative and if so, the steps toward intimacy will be thwarted and the fragments may then choose to remain in a pleasant and relatively safe state. We do not wish to imply here that sexuality need play a part in intimacy as this is not the case but it is also true that humans do tend to use the second chakra as a means of promoting the exchange of energies. We mention this fact here because it is at this level where sexual favors may be encouraged and if one fragment is not keen on the idea, then a retreat is likely and the interactions remain just that for the most part. (note: this level is a tricky one, people often will shut down here. There are many “rules” in our culture about intimacy between friends and many people aren’t comfortable developing intimacy with those other than spouses etc…)
Revelation is the fourth level and implies increased awareness of the specialty of the relationship. This level also is often internal and which insights may later be expressed through the written word between fragments at the fifth level. It is at this level that fragments integrate the understandings gleaned during the initial levels and will often choose to either deepen the relationship or keep it at the current level. We might also call this a turning point or crossroad. This juncture might be described as a moment of opening when the personality begins to take a back seat to essence as the chief features are reduced and more awareness of the essential self begins. This process would need be true for both fragments.
Intimacy begins when the false personalities have been set aside and the true personalities emerge. Often times this level which in our estimation would be considered to be advanced and not easily or often attainable during the course of every day activities is usually fleeting and may include feelings of joy, heightened awareness, and love for the other fragment. We will emphasize here that intimacy is not usually fireworks between fragments which is more the result of body type attraction, but the result of the essential nature of each fragment being accessed. This level can be experienced through sexual activity but is also available through higher centered true play and true rest and in fact is most notably present when the fragments are not seeking it.
Agape and Union are the final levels of intimacy and are nearly simultaneous in most cases as the chakra systems are totally entwined and without separation. The higher experiences of agape are the totality of unconditional love between fragments with the full activation of the heart chakra or emotional centers bringing experiences of oneness to the fragments. It is not uncommon for fragments to experience such intimacy only once or twice during each soul level until the later soul ages when such can become readily available and in fact are desired by the fragments and not avoided (as they are in the earlier cycles due to fear). One example(s) here of this level would be the nurturing and unconditionally loving relationship of mother to child, of essence twins, late level old souls, cadence mates, and other fragments who have many past lives upon which to draw. The final level of union includes the intrinsic knowledge of the Tao and that all fragments are part of rather than separate from, and this understanding is exemplified through the human relationship where these higher truths are brought to bear. END
c. 2012 Victoria Marina-Tompkins
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